I would urge anyone who, even much later in life, still suffers from the impact of child abuse, to read "Squaring Circles: From The Dark Into The Light" www.squaringcircles.co.uk It is written by Gerry Neale and published in paperback by Pearl Press Ltd www.pearlpress.co.uk ISBN 9780956868824
This is an unusual book. It is a self-help/self-discovery book but written as a novel. Why? Because, first, the author has written it in the first person through the eyes and heart of the hero to catch every nuance of the story. Second, he is convinced as a result that the reader can read, feel and sense much more of the emotional turmoil involved in tackling inhibitions and traumas laid down by childhood patterning. In this way the reader can be helped to start that process themselves reassured that, no matter how painful, it can be done.
Every success in your search for release and understanding.
The following blogs can be helpful too.
http://squaringcirclesbygerryneale.blogspot.com
http://psychologysimplified.blogspot.com
http://cognitivementors.blogspot.com
Saturday 4 February 2012
Wednesday 2 June 2010
COMMUNE WITH NATURE
To be in “sync” with the infinite scale of
natural beauty of our world
is vital for our health and well-being!
Find hidden places,
a small garden,
a corner of a park,
along a river bank
or beside a lake,
where you can saunter and sit.
Watch the birds and animals – and listen to their calls.
Imagine their lives.
We can walk past scenes of natural beauty many times
even in our homes or at work.
even in our homes or at work.
Examples can be in pictures hanging on our walls!
Promise yourself to spend moments each day,
taking notice of it, savouring it and being thankful for it.
Feel that pleasant and positive impact on you
as you enjoy it.
Tuesday 1 June 2010
TO DO TODAY
CURE FOR THE DAY
Find that precious 15 minutes today,
even while commuting, walking to work,
or dealing with family issues at home or at work.
Then:-
Focus on one thing that is not going right for you, or on one thing you haven’t done and yet should do..
Think it through, even write it down from all angles.
Decide what you would like to do about it and what should be done first.
Then Commit To Do it! – CURE IT! Today!
Don't Live with It Festering Within You Any Longer!
SPIRITUAL ACT FOR THE DAY
Life bombards us almost minute by minute with material issues, temptations and challenges.
It’s so easy to forget the essence of who and what we are!
Vow today to find a spiritual place for 15 minutes.
Sit Quietly and take in the grace and spirituality
It can be -a church, a mosque, a synagogue
-a park or river seat with a spectacular view.
-a peaceful walk through historic buildings.
Don’t think about it too much. Just commune with it!
It’s so easy to forget the essence of who and what we are!
Vow today to find a spiritual place for 15 minutes.
Sit Quietly and take in the grace and spirituality
It can be -a church, a mosque, a synagogue
-a park or river seat with a spectacular view.
-a peaceful walk through historic buildings.
Don’t think about it too much. Just commune with it!
Thursday 11 March 2010
Today's Thought: Is The Importance Of Persistence
Persistence is one of those key Character traits necessary for one's likely success in life. Refusal to Give up, downright stubbornness, doggedness are all in the same stable and it is amazing how often people can be identified quite easily asto whether they have them or not. Yet we may have all these traits residing within us but not realise it.
Previous abuse of any kind can and does play havoc with the inner sense of self-worth. Those wrenching inner doubts caused by the abuse could have been dragged across the acutely sensitive parts of our very soul. The result would be that they left emotional scar tissue, seemingly handicapping us permanently. That can leave us feeling too worthless to try anything, let alone persist at it.
Yet no matter what form the abuse took and how hideous it was, it rarely damages permanently every aspect of ourselves or every opinion we hold about individual skills we have. It's true that sometimes, the nature of the abuse can leave us so seriously disabled in one part of our lives that we still do not feel able to give ourselves any credit at all for anything.
Todays thought is simply this: try reviewing your obvious skills and talents which undoubtedly you do have. These are ones related to things that most likely were in no way touched by the abuse. One by one, look at them more deeply. Didn't we acquire them in truth because we didn't listen to the inner voice about worthlessness. But much more important, don't we see that we did actually employ the very traits of persistence and doggedness to acquire those skills.
So they are there - inside you! What does that mean? How did they work when I thoought I was worthless and useless? Almost certainly they worked because we were doing things we really wanted to do. The power of our "wanting" was really what over-ruled and drowned out the voice of worthlessness.
So keep reminding yourself you are worthy and what happened reflected badly only on the perpetrator of the abuse. I hope that the gradual introspection will ease your pain and enable you to apply your existing persistence to these sensitive areas.
I wish you well
Gerry Neale
Previous abuse of any kind can and does play havoc with the inner sense of self-worth. Those wrenching inner doubts caused by the abuse could have been dragged across the acutely sensitive parts of our very soul. The result would be that they left emotional scar tissue, seemingly handicapping us permanently. That can leave us feeling too worthless to try anything, let alone persist at it.
Yet no matter what form the abuse took and how hideous it was, it rarely damages permanently every aspect of ourselves or every opinion we hold about individual skills we have. It's true that sometimes, the nature of the abuse can leave us so seriously disabled in one part of our lives that we still do not feel able to give ourselves any credit at all for anything.
Todays thought is simply this: try reviewing your obvious skills and talents which undoubtedly you do have. These are ones related to things that most likely were in no way touched by the abuse. One by one, look at them more deeply. Didn't we acquire them in truth because we didn't listen to the inner voice about worthlessness. But much more important, don't we see that we did actually employ the very traits of persistence and doggedness to acquire those skills.
So they are there - inside you! What does that mean? How did they work when I thoought I was worthless and useless? Almost certainly they worked because we were doing things we really wanted to do. The power of our "wanting" was really what over-ruled and drowned out the voice of worthlessness.
So keep reminding yourself you are worthy and what happened reflected badly only on the perpetrator of the abuse. I hope that the gradual introspection will ease your pain and enable you to apply your existing persistence to these sensitive areas.
I wish you well
Gerry Neale
Monday 8 March 2010
Writing a Book From Your Own Experience
There are aspiring authors all over the globe who enjoy the art of putting pen to paper, but some shy away from furthering their pursuits because the idea of writing a book is an intimidating process. One of the first obvious questions an author should ask is, "What would I write about?"
Using a personal life experience, big or small, is one of the best methods an author can use when choosing the topic for a book. Each of our lives are metaphorically books, and different eras of our lives can be figuratively thought of as chapters within a book.
Human beings, by nature, are hard-wired for storytelling. We gain from learning about other peoples' experiences and receive the same amount of satisfaction when we, in turn, share our own experiences with those in our midst. Without storytelling, it would be impossible to effectively relate to one another.
While we all have common threads that make us alike - the desire to love and be loved, for instance - each person living on this earth has their own custom life story. In a world where millions upon millions of people inhabit the planet, that is a fascinating concept. In essence, we are all enough alike that we are able to relate to one another, yet different enough that we can learn from each other.
With this concept in mind, a book based on personal experience might not seem so far-fetched. Writing based on first-hand encounters not only come with ease, they can be therapeutic, particularly during a dramatic life event.
While I did not write a book on the topic, I did write a short story that was published in a newspaper after my grandmother died in 2003. She had suffered from cancer for more than a decade, and the story I wrote recounted what it was like visiting her in the hospital before her passing. After years of fighting, it was time for her to end her brave battle.
Tears dripped down my face as I shared with readers what it was like walking down that cold, sterile hospital hallway and encountering the warmth of my loving grandma one last time. The words flowed from my mind and onto the keyboard. It was a wonderful way to pay homage to a woman who made such a difference in my life.
Writing a book can be an effective method of sharing your story with readers. Search your heart, do some journaling and uncover what life experience you would like to convey through the art of storytelling.
If you're interested in writing a book, Profitable Storytelling is a fantastic site!
And for an incredible source of motivation, you really need to look at Blind Mentor. You'll be really glad you did!
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Terri_Rains
Using a personal life experience, big or small, is one of the best methods an author can use when choosing the topic for a book. Each of our lives are metaphorically books, and different eras of our lives can be figuratively thought of as chapters within a book.
Human beings, by nature, are hard-wired for storytelling. We gain from learning about other peoples' experiences and receive the same amount of satisfaction when we, in turn, share our own experiences with those in our midst. Without storytelling, it would be impossible to effectively relate to one another.
While we all have common threads that make us alike - the desire to love and be loved, for instance - each person living on this earth has their own custom life story. In a world where millions upon millions of people inhabit the planet, that is a fascinating concept. In essence, we are all enough alike that we are able to relate to one another, yet different enough that we can learn from each other.
With this concept in mind, a book based on personal experience might not seem so far-fetched. Writing based on first-hand encounters not only come with ease, they can be therapeutic, particularly during a dramatic life event.
While I did not write a book on the topic, I did write a short story that was published in a newspaper after my grandmother died in 2003. She had suffered from cancer for more than a decade, and the story I wrote recounted what it was like visiting her in the hospital before her passing. After years of fighting, it was time for her to end her brave battle.
Tears dripped down my face as I shared with readers what it was like walking down that cold, sterile hospital hallway and encountering the warmth of my loving grandma one last time. The words flowed from my mind and onto the keyboard. It was a wonderful way to pay homage to a woman who made such a difference in my life.
Writing a book can be an effective method of sharing your story with readers. Search your heart, do some journaling and uncover what life experience you would like to convey through the art of storytelling.
If you're interested in writing a book, Profitable Storytelling is a fantastic site!
And for an incredible source of motivation, you really need to look at Blind Mentor. You'll be really glad you did!
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Terri_Rains
Wednesday 3 March 2010
Domestic Abuse Counseling and Psychotherapy in the Age of Internet Technology by Jeanne King
I can remember twenty years ago having an elitist attitude about how I found my doctors. I only saw a doctor by referral. I was not the kind of person to find a doctor in the yellow pages. And I was accustomed to patients seeking me out through referral. Roughly 90% of my patients came to me through doctor or friend referral.
With the advent of the Internet and unlimited long-distance calling, doors have opened up for a new era of psychotherapy: Internet referral and telephone delivery. At first glance one might expect this to be "less" psychotherapy, however it's just the opposite. Here's why.
Specialization and Higher Level Expertise
Finding your therapist on the Internet opens doors to resources worldwide. No longer do you have to rely on the expertise of your immediate, local community. This provides the domestic abuse survivor and counseling consumer with options for securing services from the most qualified, most experienced professional in the particular area of expertise that matches their needs.
Now once you have done your homework and located this domestic violence counseling professional on the Internet, with the help of Google or your favorite social networking site, it's time to check out their credentials. Again, this is very easy with the Internet.
Essentially, all you need is to request their Curriculum Vita and instantly you can download a PDF file and review their qualifications, their education, credentials, experience, professional contributions, rewards, honors and associations. And you can digest all of this information conveniently without leaving your house.
Telephone Psychotherapy: Is It True?
Can you really do psychotherapy on the telephone? You're accustomed to being face-to-face with your therapist, so how can you trust the telephone delivery? Good question. Here's how and here's why it can be even better than face-to-face psychotherapy.
If you've ever been in psychotherapy, you know the importance of the relationship and therapeutic alliance formed with the therapist. Most experts say it's actually the vessel that births psychotherapeutic process. But do you need to be looking at this person for the psychotherapeutic process to happen? Absolutely not; to the contrary, it's best to be looking at yourself.
Since the birth of psychotherapy, the master psychotherapists placed their patients on couches reclined and facing away from themselves. You know the classic image of "Freud's couch" with the doctor out of the patient's view. This positioning facilitated inward reflection and intra-personal inquiry. The focus of psychotherapeutic process is between patient and self, not between patient and therapist.
While it is extremely important to recognize that the relationship between patient and therapist is the cradle for the self-discovery, know the role of voice and presence in creating that relationship. The trust, the rapport, the interpersonal sensitivity and perceptiveness all play an important role in establishing therapeutic alliance and can all be accomplished on the telephone.
Once this is cultivated, the other interpersonal dynamics between any two people can be distracting to the real work of self-growth, healing and development. Those with experience in rabbinical counseling know the value of the confessional enclosure and partition between priest and parishioner. What you say and what you get is between you and God, not you and your clergy.
If you are looking for help and wish to benefit from endless resources and convenient service delivery, recognize the benefits of Internet referral and telephone therapy. Your healthcare insurance carrier may also recognize this professional service. They call it "telephone psychotherapy."
So there is no longer an excuse for finding a good therapist. If you want one, you can find one and Google will help you. To learn more about domestic abuse counseling visit: http://www.EnddomesticAbuse.org/consulting.html and claim your free eInsights. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps people recognize, end and heal from domestic abuse.
Copyright 2009 Jeanne King, Ph.D.
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Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. - EzineArticles Expert Author
With the advent of the Internet and unlimited long-distance calling, doors have opened up for a new era of psychotherapy: Internet referral and telephone delivery. At first glance one might expect this to be "less" psychotherapy, however it's just the opposite. Here's why.
Specialization and Higher Level Expertise
Finding your therapist on the Internet opens doors to resources worldwide. No longer do you have to rely on the expertise of your immediate, local community. This provides the domestic abuse survivor and counseling consumer with options for securing services from the most qualified, most experienced professional in the particular area of expertise that matches their needs.
Now once you have done your homework and located this domestic violence counseling professional on the Internet, with the help of Google or your favorite social networking site, it's time to check out their credentials. Again, this is very easy with the Internet.
Essentially, all you need is to request their Curriculum Vita and instantly you can download a PDF file and review their qualifications, their education, credentials, experience, professional contributions, rewards, honors and associations. And you can digest all of this information conveniently without leaving your house.
Telephone Psychotherapy: Is It True?
Can you really do psychotherapy on the telephone? You're accustomed to being face-to-face with your therapist, so how can you trust the telephone delivery? Good question. Here's how and here's why it can be even better than face-to-face psychotherapy.
If you've ever been in psychotherapy, you know the importance of the relationship and therapeutic alliance formed with the therapist. Most experts say it's actually the vessel that births psychotherapeutic process. But do you need to be looking at this person for the psychotherapeutic process to happen? Absolutely not; to the contrary, it's best to be looking at yourself.
Since the birth of psychotherapy, the master psychotherapists placed their patients on couches reclined and facing away from themselves. You know the classic image of "Freud's couch" with the doctor out of the patient's view. This positioning facilitated inward reflection and intra-personal inquiry. The focus of psychotherapeutic process is between patient and self, not between patient and therapist.
While it is extremely important to recognize that the relationship between patient and therapist is the cradle for the self-discovery, know the role of voice and presence in creating that relationship. The trust, the rapport, the interpersonal sensitivity and perceptiveness all play an important role in establishing therapeutic alliance and can all be accomplished on the telephone.
Once this is cultivated, the other interpersonal dynamics between any two people can be distracting to the real work of self-growth, healing and development. Those with experience in rabbinical counseling know the value of the confessional enclosure and partition between priest and parishioner. What you say and what you get is between you and God, not you and your clergy.
If you are looking for help and wish to benefit from endless resources and convenient service delivery, recognize the benefits of Internet referral and telephone therapy. Your healthcare insurance carrier may also recognize this professional service. They call it "telephone psychotherapy."
So there is no longer an excuse for finding a good therapist. If you want one, you can find one and Google will help you. To learn more about domestic abuse counseling visit: http://www.EnddomesticAbuse.org/consulting.html and claim your free eInsights. Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. helps people recognize, end and heal from domestic abuse.
Copyright 2009 Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Dr._Jeanne_King,_Ph.D.
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