How To Mindcrack The Damaging Impact Of Child Abuse and Family Dysfunction

If we believe deeply we are still suffering from the impact on us of our parents’ behaviour towards us, we have the choice whether to deal with it or whether to continue to screen it out.

If instead, and since our childhood, we have been in total denial that it ever occurred, we may know it only deep in our hearts and we still leave it buried inside us, unattended.

There is one key point relating to ever coming to terms with it which is unassailably true.

It is this: if someone is trying to make you review it or face it, that will never ever work. Believe it or not, even if you, yourself, believe you ought to analyse it, but don’t really want to, then you will never review and analyse it properly either. The “ought to” loses out to the “not wanting to” everytime.

For us to fully come to terms with the impact of this behaviour on us as children and then as adults, we need to develop the wish, the want to deal with it all - and without condition. It will not be without fear or anxiety! That’s too much to expect.

So often, if we look at a challenge facing us it seems like a mountain too high to climb. Pushing from where we are just has too much baggage attached.

Yet focus on the rewards to us in mind, body and spirit if we do go through it willingly and we can see them to be immense. We would be free of the burden, the baggage, the hurt, the guilt, the shame and the doubt in ourselves. It needs that vivid visualisation of how our own very soul would be released and how we could live a happier life.

These are the dynamics to the mindcracking process: the wanting and the visualising of the process done. That’s what builds the strength of our will and determination. That’s what will pull us through the early difficulties of coming to terms with it.

And this is true of any goal or mission. Want it enough; see and feel it enough and it lives in us until it’s done!

Good luck on your path to greater happiness!

Gerry Neale